Khakain

Most of you should know my history and how things got fucked up with my ex-girlfriend. Well after that whole thing blew over I promised myself that I would never get involved with someone like that again (married and/or work colleague).

Anyway, I started a new job and I work with two chicks that are in their mid 30's. One is a smoking milf who's a single mom and the other is a cute girl who's married but without children. I've been on the job for all of three weeks and last week the MILF kept trying to hang out with me outside of work cause she didn't have her daughter for a couple of days. I respectfully avoided her because I didn't want to fuck up my new job like I did my last one. Considering the fact that I just recently broke up with my girlfriend, the fact that I turned down an opportunity to go out with this girl says a lot about how much I've learned from past experiences.

So fast forward to last night... I go out for dinner with my department to celebrate the departure of the lady who I'm replacing. everyone's there, we buy food, some drinks and then I leave early. Later on the married girl (not the milf) texts me and asks me why I left early. Then she asks if I would like to grab a coffee with her the next day in which I responded "yes". And then, out of nowhere, she tells me that she keeps having dreams about having sex with me. I just about lost my shit when i read her text cause I wasn't expecting it. I hadn't been particularly flirty with anyone and I thought we were just good friends. Anyway, over the course of the last day or so she's pretty much told me that she's extremely attracted to me and wants me bad. I didn't want to be rude since I have to work with her so I told her that I had a really bad experience with a coworker before and that i promised myself I wouldn't ever date someone in the office again. I was hoping that would be that but she keeps reminding me that she likes me and acts all giddy and girlfriend like everytime I talk to her.

This is kind of tripping me out cause I really like this job and it's already messed. How the hell does that even happen and what do I do to mitigate this without making things weird with her?

Come on now. Ignore the stroking of the ego and ignore everything else it comes with. You know exactly how to deal with it.

You need to make yourself as unappealing as possible. I can help you with this.

What's your new job like?  Are you still in IT?

hahaha

you're great, Deco.

The new job is awesome and no I'm not in IT anymore. I'm in the quality, risk and performance management department and on ttrhe Decision Support team. It's more on the strategic/clinical side of things. no more end users and support shit. it's awesome

No I don't know, please do tell!

^ Not fuck shit up for yourself and her really, really bad. The way to deal with it is to not fuck shit up for yourself and her really, really bad.

I don't plan on doing anything. It's not even about fucking shit up about me. I don't wanna have anything to do with anyone who's already in a relationship. i just don't know how to handle the way this chick is acting and how persistent she is.  i literally just met her and I have no idea where this is coming from

It does! You're doing the right thing by being firm about it. Just let her little fantasy be only that. Try to avoid her as much as you can.


I heart Deco.

I think he's asking for advice on how to diplomatically nip it in the bud should it becomes necessary.

yeah sort of. she keeps texting me now too... just texted me again a few seconds ago.

Just say no.

Then again, I don't think that advice has worked with you in the past. :sailor

I see what you did there

Have sex with her.


Just pretend to be really really bad at it.

Then she'll spread that around the office and no one from work will ever want to sleep with you.

Really, you screwed up when you gave her your phone number.

Isn't that his real goal?

That's how I meant it, but I can see how that'd be ambiguous.

My advice is to tell her that you want to hook up and do some really, really, really freaky shit to her.  Like the stuff you feel ashamed that you even fantasized about.

At which point she'll either stop wanting to talk to you, or be down for it.  And then the risk would be so worth it.

never ever ever ever get your meat from the same place you get your bread.... it's an old Jewish food law, I think.

You end up unemployed with no GF to move in with. It's the quickest way I know of to end up living in a van down by the river.

Tell her you have decided that you have management aspirations and as such, have to immediately "professionalize" your acquaintance.

Seriously.  I am sure however hot she is that it's not worth it.

Also SHE'S MARRIED.

C) Put it in

I kinda didn't have a choice giving her my number. Everyone in the department is expected to share numbers anyway and at the time I didn't realize what was going on